Top 10 Ways to Ruin Your Wedding
by
Sally Ann Street
As a wedding officiant I could tell you horror stories! Instead I will give you my top 10 list of things to avoid at all cost!
Top 10 Ways to Ruin Your Wedding
10) Not using music during the ceremony. Music during a ceremony helps set the mood for the special moment. Before the bridal party enters, the guests tend to laugh and talk among themselves. This is especially true with weddings that are not held in a church. If there is no music that signifies that the special event is ready to begin, the guests will still be noisy and inattentive as your bridal party enters.
9) Having a ceremony on a 90 degree day in the sunshine. You want the guests to feel the love, not the heat stroke! If your wedding is outdoors in the heat and sun, please be sure to provide cold beverages. Inexpensive fans on the chairs is also a nice touch and provides some welcome relief. Also be sure not to seat your guest too early in the hot sun. 5 minutes or so before the start of the ceremony is really all i takes.
8) Having a wedding outdoors without a back up plan in case of bad weather.
7) Not having a rehearsal. Most wedding officiates charge for the additional time required to attend a rehearsal, so there is sometimes the temptation to skip this step. During a wedding ceremony, it’s all the small things that make the wedding beautiful, or awkward and unpolished. To many people being in a wedding feels the same as public speaking, or being on stage; it can be scary stuff! The rehearsal helps calm every ones fears by practicing where to go, what to do and what to say. It makes the actual event run much smoother and helps assure the guests will be wiping away tears of joy and not tears of laughter!
6) Choosing a huge wedding party if they are not all people you feel will get along well with one another. A large wedding party can cause confusion and even bickering; especially where the bridesmaid dresses are concerned. A dress that will look great on a 5 foot 10 model type can be a girl’s worst nightmare for a 5 foot 2 full figured friend. Multiply that by 6 and you can have some real management issues on your hands! Wedding photos can also be much nicer (and more affordable) for a small, intimate wedding party.
5) Thinking that nervousness and fears are abnormal. Marriage is a major life change and by their very nature major life changes are stressful.
4) Spending more than you, or your family can afford. Weddings are big business. There is someone with their hand out in every direction you look. All of the add ons are pretty and so very tempting. Allowing the spending to get out of control can easily happen. But it can also do great, long term damage to your family. Although your parents love you and are willing to go into debt to pay for a beautiful wedding for their daughter, it is better for everyone’s sake to keep things reasonable. Also, going into debt for the wedding is not a good way to start off a marriage. Loving each other, means doing what is right for the long term good of the relationship. After doing a little research on what weddings actually cost, make sure you openly discuss your wants, needs and budget for the wedding. Then honor each other by sticking to it!
3) Spending more time on planning the wedding, than you are on nurturing the relationship. Not always, but often, women are more interested in the details of the big day than their partners are. You want to talk about the wedding. He just wants to have some fun together. Give the guy a break and call your girlfriends tomorrow to discuss the perfect colors for the bouquet.
2) Forgetting about the importance of the wedding ceremony itself.
1) Getting married to someone just because you have already spent a lot of money and are embarrassed to call it off. If you have serious doubts, or really feel the wedding is a mistake take those doubts seriously!
Sally Ann Street
As a wedding officiant I could tell you horror stories! Instead I will give you my top 10 list of things to avoid at all cost!
Top 10 Ways to Ruin Your Wedding
10) Not using music during the ceremony. Music during a ceremony helps set the mood for the special moment. Before the bridal party enters, the guests tend to laugh and talk among themselves. This is especially true with weddings that are not held in a church. If there is no music that signifies that the special event is ready to begin, the guests will still be noisy and inattentive as your bridal party enters.
9) Having a ceremony on a 90 degree day in the sunshine. You want the guests to feel the love, not the heat stroke! If your wedding is outdoors in the heat and sun, please be sure to provide cold beverages. Inexpensive fans on the chairs is also a nice touch and provides some welcome relief. Also be sure not to seat your guest too early in the hot sun. 5 minutes or so before the start of the ceremony is really all i takes.
8) Having a wedding outdoors without a back up plan in case of bad weather.
7) Not having a rehearsal. Most wedding officiates charge for the additional time required to attend a rehearsal, so there is sometimes the temptation to skip this step. During a wedding ceremony, it’s all the small things that make the wedding beautiful, or awkward and unpolished. To many people being in a wedding feels the same as public speaking, or being on stage; it can be scary stuff! The rehearsal helps calm every ones fears by practicing where to go, what to do and what to say. It makes the actual event run much smoother and helps assure the guests will be wiping away tears of joy and not tears of laughter!
6) Choosing a huge wedding party if they are not all people you feel will get along well with one another. A large wedding party can cause confusion and even bickering; especially where the bridesmaid dresses are concerned. A dress that will look great on a 5 foot 10 model type can be a girl’s worst nightmare for a 5 foot 2 full figured friend. Multiply that by 6 and you can have some real management issues on your hands! Wedding photos can also be much nicer (and more affordable) for a small, intimate wedding party.
5) Thinking that nervousness and fears are abnormal. Marriage is a major life change and by their very nature major life changes are stressful.
4) Spending more than you, or your family can afford. Weddings are big business. There is someone with their hand out in every direction you look. All of the add ons are pretty and so very tempting. Allowing the spending to get out of control can easily happen. But it can also do great, long term damage to your family. Although your parents love you and are willing to go into debt to pay for a beautiful wedding for their daughter, it is better for everyone’s sake to keep things reasonable. Also, going into debt for the wedding is not a good way to start off a marriage. Loving each other, means doing what is right for the long term good of the relationship. After doing a little research on what weddings actually cost, make sure you openly discuss your wants, needs and budget for the wedding. Then honor each other by sticking to it!
3) Spending more time on planning the wedding, than you are on nurturing the relationship. Not always, but often, women are more interested in the details of the big day than their partners are. You want to talk about the wedding. He just wants to have some fun together. Give the guy a break and call your girlfriends tomorrow to discuss the perfect colors for the bouquet.
2) Forgetting about the importance of the wedding ceremony itself.
1) Getting married to someone just because you have already spent a lot of money and are embarrassed to call it off. If you have serious doubts, or really feel the wedding is a mistake take those doubts seriously!
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